So called relationship...boyfie and gurlfie =)

Assalamualaikum dan salam sejahtera….

Dah cantikkan mukadimah itu? Ha3x anyway how are you guys? I’m back! It been a long weeks for me. For the past few weeks I felt like my life so miserable. Been busy at work…tot tet tot tet with my paper with my pc and all kind of things make me felt so tired and sometimes bored also.

Oh mintak maaf awal2x krane entry ini akan menjadik dwibahasa (rojak) kerane kecelaruan otak saye belum abis lagi. Banyak sangat benda yang ade dalam otak ni sampai da x bole nk di sort pakai filter dah he3x.

A friend of mine asked for my opinion about this topic call ‘between two perspectives’. You know what I mean by ‘between two perspectives’ rite. Lelaki dan perempuan itu  yang lebih tepat. Pekara yg biase didengar tapi x penah abis. Ada je yang nak di perdebatkan.

Jom kite tengok satu persatu. Cik ayu ini untuk ko J. Tapi aku tambah sikit

1- Sempurna

Sempurna itu sangatlah subjektif sebenarnya. Cuba cakap manusia mana yang damn perfect dalam dunia ni selepas wafatnya Rasul kita Muhammad s.a.w yang serba serbi pelakuan dan akidahnya yang sangat molek. Ya saya taw sape yang tak menginginkan kesempurnaan dalam hidup tmbahan pula terhadap pasangan masing2x kan. But one thing u have always to put in mind is no body perfect babe. No matter how you try to be perfect or seek for the perfection it never come over to you at the end.

Normally guy or babe sangatla suke ckp mcm ni : sye kalo bole nak awek yang cantik perfect sgale serbi cantek mcm fasha sandha, siti nurhaliza bla..bla..bla…pastu sye nak agak2x pandai berdikari, hormatkan org tua, x kuat merajuk, x mengongkong and etc…pendek kate my awek ‘to be’ should be perfect!

Babe pulak kate: I nak boyfie yg mcm fahrin ahmad sebab die sasa bole melindungi saye encem, kaye, romantic, suke wat surprise utk sye bla..bla..bla and mcm sempurna je die kan…

Ha bagi sye yang mendengar sye akan gelakkan je sbb tu mcm angan2x mat jenin yg langsung x berpijak d bumi yang nyata. Ape yang ade pada kesempurnaan sebenarnye yg korg cari bagai nak gile ni? Kalo at the end korg sendiri melompong sbb kne tgl dengan boyfie/gurlfie sbb korg telalu push die supaye jadik sempurna tnpe korg cermin balik diri korg dulu. Lama kelamaan they getting tired, bored and annoyed with your ‘perfect’ term.

Dan mungkin korg akan mendengar kata2x seperti ini- ‘hey before u asking me to change myself to be damn perfect for you, why don’t you change yourself first’.

Or maybe korg akan dengar mcm ni- ‘ek eleh u nak I berubah jadik perfect tp diri sendiri tungang terbalik. Lagi ade hati nak sekolahkan org. U boleh blah la dengan sempurna u tu..’.

Ok conclusion die kan adik2x jgn menilai dengan mata kasar kalo anda tahu yg anda pon tidaklah sempurna di mata yang laen. We all have the best part of us and of course the worse part. Open your heart to accept the strength and the weakness of your loved one. Guarantee you will be feeling oraite! Less is more dude….

Next…

2- Hormat-menghormati

Ok yang ini pon jadik duri dalam daging jugak kalo dalam bab2x chenta-chintun neyh kan. Mari kite cangkul pasai mende alah ni pulak…

I believe everybody should respect others no matter they are somebody or nobody. Poor or rich. intelligence or not and so on. Tapi kadang2 kan pekare ni kite slalu miss. Kite nak org hormati kite seadanye kite kan. Tp in order to gain respect from others u should shown your respect towards others first. If you not doing this don’t asking too much from others because it not worth at all.

Situasi yg direka oleh penulis =)

Kata boyfie kpd gurlfie: ‘ you ni cube la respect I sikit. I ni boyfriend you taw bkn adik2 u yang suke2x ati you nak arah itu ini. Nak jerit itu ini. Kalo da perempuan tu cube la lemah lembut sikit. Bersopan la mengikut ape yg sepatutnye sebagai sorg perempuan. Ini x main redah je. Ni baru kapel blom kawin lagik. Kalo da kawin kepala I pon u pijak. Eah kalo mcm ni 10 kali I kne solat hajat mintak petunjuk btol u ke yang patut I pilih nanty’.

I tell you bro this is damn hurt. Come on bro its not the way to ‘tegur’ your gurlfie. When you said those words she might think twice to choose you as her future hubby. See what you gave you get back.

Kata gurlfie kpd boyfie: ‘yang u tu pun kalo ye pon I salah x bole tegur elok2x ke? Talk like ur so damn good but in the reality your just crap like other man out there. Kalo u nak ajar psal hormat I rase better u balik ajar diri u dulu…mengata dulang paku serpih mengata org die yang lebih’.

See bnde yang kecik mcm taik minyak pon bole jadik besar mcm tsunami dan bile korg dah pung pang pung pang betikam lidah and said all those sumpah seranah words... ape yang korg dapat? Masalah settle x? I bet not. Hubungan korg makin ok n betambah erat mcm iklan kacip Fatimah org kampong ke? I think not. So it not worth you anything guys. It only lead u to the uncomfortable feeling and guilty and not to forget ashamed.

Ape kate kalo bile soal hormat-menghormati ni timbul cube duduk elok2x sambil makan kuaci ngn air kotak kan then ckp elok2 like this: ‘ I bukan marah tp nk tegur je… you mcm x hormat I la tdk kecik aty I yg besar ni. Len kali jangan wat lagi ye sbb I pon akan hormatkan u. I can’t afford to lost you because of this’. See polite way kan. Yang dengar pun  sedar die salah n trust me she/he will slowly changed. Die pon ade otak nk pikir kalo korg tegor elok2x.

Scroll lagik coz ade lagik point saye he3x…

3-Menghargai

Alahai bnde ni pon lebih krg same dgn second point tadik. Yang gurlfie rase die x d hargai oleh cik boyfie yang boyfie lak rase cm gurlfie die buta tuli x hargai ape yang die da wat utk si pujaan ati. Mcm common sgt kan…don’t worry sye pown penah hadap bnde alah ni...kite geng! He3x...

Sbnrnye wahai encik boyfie dan cik gurlfie anda ber2 same2 telah berkorban, menjeruk rase, menjaga hati antara satu sama laen. Cuma x lepas ckp je lagik kan. So sebenarnye same jer pengorbanan yang korg bedua da wat nk bekire ape sgt dengan kisah harga menghargai ni? Ce citer sikit.

Memang la kita nak org hargai ape yang kite buat. Kita nak org ingat ape yang penah kite wat dan show that appreciation to us. But u has to know one thing. Every single person has their own way to show it. Sometimes kite rase mcm useless sgt ape yg kite da wat utk si pujaan ati iatu boyfie/gurlfie sbb diorg x penah nak hargai waima ckp tengkiu pon nan hado so we become upset.

Tp penah tak korg pikir satu bnde je. Bile sampai tang bestday korg beliau la yg merupakan org yg paling sebok memikirkn ape yg nk wat untuk sambut hari tua korg tu. Mmg la die x ckp…kalo ckp korg ngade2 lak kate ape la x romantic la x surprise la da ke situ lak korg kan...so pointnye disini wat pe die nk susah payah memikir, beli hadiah which is mungkin die dah smpn setahun yg lps smate2 nk belikn bufday gift tok korg dan wat pe die nk peneng kepala pikir nak belikan ape utk korg yg banyak songeh sbb itu x kne ini x kene.

So think twice before u said ur loved one never appreciate what u have done for he or she. Keep believing that he/she have their own way to express their appreciation towards u yang mane kadang2 kite x Nampak dengan mata kasar…yang kadang kite take it for granted...think about it babe...

Alamak da panjang benor la pulak kan…sile jgn menyampah. Ni last point. I promise.

4-Perbandingan

Comparison is easy to make once u have a taste of perfectionist...but adekah senang untuk org yang anda bandingkan itu utk trima ape yang anda ckp?. Sbnrnye saye sgt malas nk elaborate pnjg2 point ni. Tp sbb da tetulis sye wt jugak la yea.

Situasinye:-

Kata boyfie kpd gurlfie- ‘ you ni no touch of woman, sangat kasar. U taw x ex I dulu x macam u taw. Die sangat ambek berat pasal I bukan mcm u. jangan nak ambek berat wat bodo lagik ade. Lagi satu die pandai ambek ati n hormat I x mcm u kurg ajar giler’.

Jwb si gurlfie pulak- ‘yang u nk bandingkan I dengan ex u tu pasai ape? Eah ex I dulu pun xde mcm u ni taw sikit2 nk baran nk ungkit itu ini. Die x mcm u taw’.

Cube korg ckp kat saye ape keuntungan ungkit n banding mcm ni? Adekah korg rase seronok? Bangga sbb dulu korg ade ‘ex’ yang damn good mcm tu. Tp bagi sye lah kan x taw la korg rase ape...if your ex is better than your boyfie/gurlfie why did your ex leave u? Why don’t you just hold on with your ex and get married or what so ever and why your ex become your ‘ex’ not your lover now! Answer me?

When there is a term so called ‘ex’ there is no point for u to compare your lover with your ex. You leave your ex or they leave you must be a reason behind it guys. So think carefully and don’t simply hentam your lover dengan berpandukan your ex. Bnde banding2 ni hnye akan menyebabkan bnde yg burok je kwn2x…it damn hurt when you compared your lover with your ex full stop!

Guys, Your lover and your ex are totally different in every aspect. The way she/he love you also different. So no need to compare la ye. Walupun korg x bekenan dengan cre die, korg ckp je. Mmg die akn deny tp deep inside die taw die pelu lakukan sesuatu pasal tu. Jangan la hari ni korg tegor esok korg nk die jadik macam mane yang korg nak...dri kecik pagainye begitu da jadik darah daging da… nak berubah pelukan mase ye kwn2 bkn ungkit mengukit, bkn banding memanding dan bukan betelagah. Trust me it not works anyway.

So thank for reading this longest entry ever…love u!

p/s: cik ayu utang aku finally bebaya yahooo